“You, of course, are aware of the irony implicit in feminism: women are to attain status by imitating what men can already do as well or better than women but not by doing what only women can do (i.e. motherhood.) Thus feminists have conceded from the outset what the worst chauvinist/misogynist would claim, that it is what men do that is the true criterion of value. Yet this point is rarely brought up outside of a few very radical feminists who are otherwise loony misandrists.”

from here.
Behavior shows what is truly valued.